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Self-Love After Narcissistic Abuse & Other Toxic Relationships: Online Course (Teachable)
Self-Love After Narcissistic Abuse & Other Toxic Relationships course includes more than 12 hours of guided instruction, coaching, and homework on topics including:
- What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder & Narcissistic Abuse
- Different Types of Abuse – Emotional, Physical, Sexual, Financial, Spiritual, Psychological
- Dysfunctional Family Roles
- Sibling Bullying
- Codependency
- Green Flags vs Red Flags in Relationships
- Cycles of Abuse & Addiction
- Changing Your Mindset & Inner Narrative
- Avesa Breathwork
- Mirror Work
- Shadow Work
- Inner Child Healing
- Quantum Healing Journal Prompts
- And so much more!
Why Hire a Coach Instead of a Therapist?
Therapy has an important role to play in healing, but because many therapists are not trained in personality disorders or in treating narcissistic abuse trauma, some survivors do not find the help they need when seeking therapeutic support. Not having your traumatic experience validated by a therapist essentially leaves you further traumatized.
How can you be further traumatized?
When your therapist wrongfully dismisses something the subtleties of narcissistic abuse as you being too sensitive or imagining things, they are essentially gaslighting you on behalf of your abuser. And in truth, many of the therapists who do this are narcissists themselves. They can’t validate that the behavior is harm or wrongful because it’s their behavior too.
Do the following symptoms sound familiar?
If you have suffered psychological and emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist/psychopath then these will sound all too familiar:
- Low self confidence
- Doubting yourself and your sanity
- Mood swings
- Insomnia
- Extreme weight loss or weight gain
- Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity
- Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
- Extreme paranoia (obsessive detective)
- Repetitive, obsessive thoughts (ruminating)
- Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
- Helplessness
- Despair
- Self isolating
- Feeling desperately misunderstood
- Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
- Extreme bouts of rage
- Codependency
- Strange dreams
- Anxiety
- Depression
The list goes on….
Such experiences set you up for self-defeating beliefs and patterns that may be affecting every aspect of your life—
- Your self-concept
- Your emotional state
- Your physical health
- Your relationships
- Even the work you do in the world!
You may be experiencing:
- Hypervigilance
- Emotional reactivity
- Compulsive self-doubt
- Harsh inner critic
- Depression and anxiety
- Avoidance
- People-pleasing tendencies
- Compulsive guilt and shame
- Perfectionism
- Self-sabotage
- Dissociation
- Large memory gaps
- Addictions
- Poor self-care
- Panic attacks
- Nightmares and flashbacks
- Fear of judgment or criticism
- Confused relationship boundaries
- Insomnia
- Unexplained chronic pain/illness
What is Narcissistic Abuse?
Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional, mental, physical, financial, spiritual, and/or sexual abuse perpetrated by someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Abuse perpetrated by a narcissist may include emotional, mental, physical, financial, spiritual, or sexual abuse.
There are extensive psychological tests that can be done to determine if someone has narcissistic personality disorder, but because one of the hallmarks of a narcissist is a BIG ego, they don’t actively seek out help and if they do end up going to a therapist or working with a coach.
A narcissist usually only agrees to attend therapy for one or two sessions, unless they feel they can manipulate that coach or therapist.
One of the more common ways then that targets of abuse confirm that their abuser was in fact a narcissist is through the nine (9) signs and symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
These nine symptoms from the Mayo Clinic are the same criteria according to the diagnostic manual (DSM-5), which is what psychologists/therapists use to diagnose mental health conditions.
In order for someone to be diagnosed with NPD, they only need to display five (5) of the nine (9) symptoms.
- A grandiose sense of self-importance
- Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- The belief that one is special and can only be understood by or associate with special people or institutions
- A need for excessive admiration
- A sense of entitlement (to special treatment)
- Exploitation of others
- A lack of empathy
- Envy of others or the belief that one is the object of envy
- Arrogant, haughty behavior or attitudes
Keep in mind someone can be abusive even if they are not a narcissist. Abuse is abuse, no matter the abuser’s diagnosis.
Astrological Chart Reading
Do you need help reading your natal chart? Are you looking for a professional astrologer to interpret your birth chart, solar return report, transit report, and share themes, insights and challenges in areas of your life such as love, relationships, career?
elevated aura offers three different types of 1:1 astrological chart readings:
- 90-Minute In-Depth Astrological Chart Reading (Recommended for New Clients)
- 45-Minute Mini Birth Chart Reading
- 60-Minute Deep Dive Reading for Returning Clients
As a bonus when you book any astrological reading, you’ll receive a complimentary mini breathwork session or a tarot pull at the end of your reading.
Reading is either conducted live on zoom and recorded or you can choose a recording-only reading.
In both instances, we’ll need to know:
- Birth Name
- Birth Date
- Birth Time Exact
- Birth Location
- Any questions you have
Astrological Future Forecast
What is in store for you in the next few months or year?
Find out with this report that describes your upcoming transits for a three, six or twelve month period.
All transits are fully interpreted with insightful clues on how to navigate the challenges ahead and gives the date range for when each transit is in effect. Includes transits to planets from Jupiter through Pluto, plus Chiron. Note that Chiron is fully delineated – a unique feature of this report.
Natal Chart – Birth Chart
Who were you when you came into this world?
What strengths do you draw on?
What specific challenges do you face?
Deepen your self-awareness and introspection and learn what the celestial skies say about you with your own personalized birth chart and natal report.
Solar Return Report
A Solar Return chart is an astrology chart calculated for the moment when the Sun returns to its exact natal position.
It is a powerful technique for examining the themes and issues that will arise for you during your solar year – the year that runs from birthday to birthday. Often the turning point represented by your birthday time of the year brings a new phase of your life into existence, and the Solar Return chart helps you to examine this new perspective on your life and what your year may bring.
The powerful delineations in this report can be used for forecasting the year ahead or for investigating the dynamics of your current year.
Romantic Compatibility Report
Are you and your mate a good match?
What is it about them that’s so appealing?
Why do they make you laugh like no one else can?
Do you have long-term potential?
How can you help each other grow?
Whether it’s a new flirtation or a lifelong partnership, your stars light the way to a deeper understanding of yourself, your lover, and your relationship.
Discover your lover…
Find out with a Romantic Compatibility Report, your best resource for a romantic comparison. Recently called “the best chart comparison report on the market” by American Astrology magazine.
Compares the charts of two individuals using the synastry, or inter-aspects.
Relationship Report
Do we have long term potential?
Identify the potential strengths and challenges that emerge when two people come together in a long-term committed relationship.
This powerful Relationship Report uses the Composite chart technique to examine the relationship as a fusion of the two individuals involved. Includes a colorful composite chart with complete interpretations.
Your relationship is unique… and it has its own unique astrology!
The Relationship Report uses the powerful composite chart technique to examine the relationship as a fusion of the two individuals involved, unlike the Compatibility Report, which shows the impact of one individual upon the other.
Your Relationship Report shows you the unique strengths and blind spots in your relationship. You’ll learn how and why your relationship works, where you can grow, and potential pitfalls to avoid, and how to best support each other.
Please note that I am not a trained therapist. I offer narcissistic abuse recovery coaching with the understanding that although I know a lot about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic abuse trauma recovery, you are your own advocate, and I am here to support you with the toolkit I have as a coach and empathetic survivor.