Lately, I’ve been reminded of why I became a life coach. Why I started elevated aura. Why I speak out about narcissistic abuse, emotional trauma, and the subtle—yet devastating—ways it gets minimized.
The kind of trauma where family dysfunction is brushed off as “just how they are.” Where secrets are normalized and silence is rewarded.
When my Vanderpump Rules post went viral on TikTok, I was overwhelmed by the outpouring of support from people who deeply get it. Survivors who know the pain of being blamed for their own trauma. Of being told they were too messy, too complicated, too imperfect to be worthy of help.
But then came the comments.
“She deserved it.”
“She’s no angel.”
“She was toxic too.”
And just like that, the familiar trap revealed itself again.
The idea that if you weren’t perfect, you weren’t really abused.
If you made mistakes, your pain must not count.
This is the judgment that keeps so many survivors stuck in cycles of silence and shame.
It’s the reason we don’t tell our stories.
The reason we gaslight ourselves before anyone else can.
But here’s what I’ve learned—perfection was never a requirement for protection.
Your pain is valid even if you were messy.
You still deserve to be witnessed, held, and supported.
This is why elevated aura exists.
To help you stop carrying shame that was never yours.
To remind you that healing doesn’t happen in hiding.
It begins when you’re seen by someone who truly understands.
If you’re ready to share your story with someone who gets it, I’m here.
You don’t have to walk this path alone anymore.
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